It just another day in another week of another year.
Mostly, your life is pretty good.
Then a call, a message, a turn around a different corner, changes everything.
When a traumatic event takes place and it effect mostly those around us, our natural immediate reaction and main concern is compassion.
What has happened, to better understand, and how can we help?
The closer to your immediate environment this happens, the more it effects you.
Commonly at this stage, at least for those close to it, there are about zero judgement (there’s little space for it – yet).
However, as everything settles back in to a sense of ‘normal’ (and I use that word sparingly) and hopefully recovery, the questions comes – and this is where our judgement gets a window to creep back in.
WHY did it happen? And WHO or WHAT can we blame?
Rarely is there a sense of it happened and we learnt. There seem to be an endless need to find reasons for it and an it to blame. A reason to create victimhood…
Which then immediately brings up the follow up question of WHO is it, more precisely, that is doing the judging?
Is it the person whom it happened to?
An attempting to blame others?
Or blaming self only to crawl in to victimhood?
Or taking responsibility for what happened and follow up with actions to minimize the chances of its reoccurance?
In the case of the onlookers, the witnesses, the helpers, why would they feel a need to find a reason it happened?
Is it to find a cause that needs to be rectified?
Or is it because whatever happened could quite easily have happened to almost anyone and it’s now an inner reflection on self?
Like it or not, but as human beings we tend to mirror everything that happens around us and so how we react, consciously and unconsciously, tells quite a bit about what goes on inside of us.
Being that I happen to be a human being, there are times when I catch myself judging others and/or situations. The difference in how I used to be and how I function now, is that now I’m aware I’m doing it and not afraid to look further in to as to why.
Making this choice, to look at myself in that mirror and ask myself questions, is what gives me the opportunity to learn from what has just happened. This willingness to look at self for what’s going on, helps me to get the most of the lesson that has just been given to me.
What do you see when you judge others? What is it that annoys you and why?
It happened whether you like it or not. You might as well make the most out of it.
Now, what actions can we take to reduce the possibilities that it will happen again? Or/and that it will happen to others?
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